About 10 years ago, Bob and I first learned how to speak to each other’s heart–to take time to listen to the underlying emotions, to learn about the life events that first caused those emotions, to see how those same unresolved wounds were bogging us down today–and then to seek God together for the light He wants to shine on the problem. We always felt that we had a good marriage but until this point, we spent much of our time with each other talking about the business of marriage and family. Speaking to each other’s heart made our relationship immeasurably better.